“Your job is to know what matters to your partner and how to make him or her feel safe and secure.”

- Stan Tatkin, Psy.D. 

Over time, Couples Counseling has had a bad reputation for not being as effective as it could be and for simply managing symptoms rather than getting to the heart of what was causing the symptoms in the first place.

When people get together and decide to get married and have children together, they usually have a good sense that the other is a good fit for them. They want to be happy, they want to take good care of their partner…and they have a sense that their partner can (and wants to) take care of them as well.

But what usually comes with this are some challenges. Any wounding we still have from childhood and anything we don’t know how to do yet in relationship will likely come to the surface. Add to that the stresses of the world, including work and raising children, and couples can very easily get into negative patterns with each other that only get worse if they’re not addressed.

This doesn’t mean the couple isn’t “right” for each other. This simply means they need to learn more about how to do relationship correctly. It has been my experience seeing hundreds of couples that they usually want to meet each other’s needs, they just need help knowing how to sometimes.

Attachment-based couples counseling is different because it doesn’t simply focus on managing symptoms. The focus is on rediscovering and strengthening the attachment bond between the two partners. That way, they cannot only get back what they had before but potentially be even better because they are healing their wounds together and learning more about what they other needs and how to meet those needs.

To find out more about how Attachment-based couples counseling works and to see if my approach is a good “fit” for you, click on the button below to schedule an initial phone appointment today!